A topic that continues to come up in my graduate Psychology classes is the idea of self-care. As future mental health clinicians, my classmates and I need to understand that in order to properly take care of others, we must take care of ourselves. Self-care is something we all need, and what's great is that it can be anything you want it to be. For some people, it might mean taking a hike to clear their head or going for a drive with their favorite music on. Personally, I love spending time at the Stanford Mall or taking the dogs for a walk. Self-care is important for everyone—especially those who face health challenges—but one group that often gets overlooked is caregivers: the amazing people who take care of us when we need it most.
What Is Self-Care and Why Is It Important?
The keyword here is self-care, and it’s something that applies to everyone, especially
caregivers. Self-care can be as simple as enjoying a favorite hobby, taking a nap, or spending time with loved ones. It’s not just about relaxation; it’s about recharging so you can continue giving your best. For those who take care of others—whether it’s parents, friends, or professional caregivers—it’s essential that they prioritize self-care too.
My Experience With a Caregiver
When I was going through some of the roughest patches with my illness, my mother was always there when I needed her. Not once did she leave me in distress. There were times I woke up in the middle of the night screaming because I was so uncomfortable—dizzy, shaking, and nauseous. Within seconds, my mom would be at my bedside, ready to bring me a cold seltzer and soothe me through it. When I was in the hospital, she begged me to let her sleep on a chair by my side. I told her to go home and get her rest, which she did reluctantly. Still, every morning at 8:30 a.m., I’d wake up to the sound of her boots walking down the hospital hallway, greeted with my favorite iced green tea and her much-appreciated company. My mother was my pillar of strength during my hardest times, and she remains the one I turn to when I need support.
The Emotional Toll on Caregivers
Our caregivers put so much energy into being there for us, and the reality is that they too are deeply affected by our illnesses, both physically and emotionally. We often forget that while they may not be the ones who are sick, they are still impacted by the stress and worry that comes with caregiving. That's why it’s so important to not only thank them for what they do but also to make sure they get the time for self-care that they need.
How to Show Appreciation to Your Caregiver
If you're feeling up to it, try to plan an activity that both you and your caregiver can enjoy together. This gives you both the chance to relax and unwind. It doesn’t have to be anything big—it could be watching a movie, going for a walk, or grabbing a cup of coffee. And if something like that isn’t possible right now, there are still plenty of ways to show your appreciation. Small gestures like a heartfelt thank-you, a handwritten note, or a little gift can go a long way in making your caregiver feel valued.
Why Caregivers Deserve Self-Care
Caregivers are often incredibly selfless people. They tend to put the needs of others before their own and may feel like taking time for themselves isn’t necessary. But the truth is, regardless of whether you’re dealing with an illness or not, everyone needs to take care of themselves every once in a while. It’s essential that caregivers also find time for their own self-care so that they can continue to be strong and supportive.
We rely on our caregivers to be there for us during tough times, and it’s just as important to make sure they’re taken care of, too. Let’s remember to appreciate them and encourage them to prioritize their own self-care.